Of course you want to be on your best behavior on a first date. As part of making the best early impressions possible, you will want to avoid certain sensitive topics that can cause trouble. Be careful with the following topics:
Yourself - Don't talk about yourself too much. You can come across as boring and egotistical. Instead, focus more on the other person. Asking them questions helps.
When you are asked questions by your date, you should of course answer them. Don't avoid the topic, just answer and then ask them the same question, or a different question along the same lines. This is a natural back-and-forth and doesn't make it look like you are trying to hide something.
Politics - Talking politics is always potentially dicey. Especially on a first date, you want to avoid this topic.
Sometimes you'll be talking and just stumble over politics, and find that you and the other person see eye to eye politically. If this is the case, great! You can continue to talk along this line if you want, to keep up the conversation.
If you can tell that you don't get along politically, you need to steer the conversation in another direction instead, as quickly as you can. Wait for a few more dates to talk politics.
Religion - Again, this is a fraught topic that can cause problems. Avoid it on a first date.
The only exception to this rule is in the case where you know ahead of time that you and your date agree on all religious matters; this can be the case where people who are very religious meet through a religious group or on a religious dating site. If this is the case, talk about religion may be appropriate.
Talking religion is a bad idea because if you disagree about religion, it can be a sticking point. Better to get to know each other a bit, and have a basis for a relationship, before starting a religious discussion with a potential partner.
Yourself - Don't talk about yourself too much. You can come across as boring and egotistical. Instead, focus more on the other person. Asking them questions helps.
When you are asked questions by your date, you should of course answer them. Don't avoid the topic, just answer and then ask them the same question, or a different question along the same lines. This is a natural back-and-forth and doesn't make it look like you are trying to hide something.
Politics - Talking politics is always potentially dicey. Especially on a first date, you want to avoid this topic.
Sometimes you'll be talking and just stumble over politics, and find that you and the other person see eye to eye politically. If this is the case, great! You can continue to talk along this line if you want, to keep up the conversation.
If you can tell that you don't get along politically, you need to steer the conversation in another direction instead, as quickly as you can. Wait for a few more dates to talk politics.
Religion - Again, this is a fraught topic that can cause problems. Avoid it on a first date.
The only exception to this rule is in the case where you know ahead of time that you and your date agree on all religious matters; this can be the case where people who are very religious meet through a religious group or on a religious dating site. If this is the case, talk about religion may be appropriate.
Talking religion is a bad idea because if you disagree about religion, it can be a sticking point. Better to get to know each other a bit, and have a basis for a relationship, before starting a religious discussion with a potential partner.
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